In North America, we will be celebrating Mother’s Day on May 11-th. Which brought me to the topic of Mothers and their role in our lives.

If we would follow the usual, linear thinking, it is simply: Mothers care for us when we are small, they sing songs, cook food, take us to school, doctors etc.

But if we would decide to take closer, more spiritual look, we would realize that a Mothers role is much more of an important one. They shape their children’s future. They shape their characters and constantly, knowingly or not, teach children by example. Personally I would prefer if all mothers would see the whole picture, it would be easier for all concerned.

Mothers are teachers, leaders, motivators, role models and much, much more. Among other things mothers teach children work ethics, moral values, family standards, appreciation of elders, and respect for money. I believe in that, hence I do not believe that children, in order to appreciate money, have to start working at the age of 12 and as a result of being overworked, require Prozac in high school. Maybe kids should have a real childhood, get crazy, and play all evening with other healthy and happy kids to balance both of their brain hemispheres.Maybe they will know the value of money because their mothers will have time to talk to them and share with them the wisdom of adults.In todays society, we send our children sick to school, because mothers have to work… maybe sick children should stay home with their mothers until they get better, which will also build strong report and understanding of importance of dedication to other family members, which will last for a lifetime.

Children are like sponges and they absorb information about the world and its functions automatically, instinctively, subconsciously and permanently. We have a choice: either they will absorb it from their home environment or a nanny (which means other peoples value systems, often other cultural values as well).

There is a direct proportion between how often our children will visit us at our retirement homes and how much time we dedicated to reading them bad time stories and discussing with them their reality, being there for them when they needed us. Children enter our, adults, reality right away and stay there until late schooling time. Do we do the same? Do we know our children’s reality?

I do not believe that making children work for years to pay off their student loan will teach them a lot, except that life is hard and unfair. I think that life is great and children are wonderful, and deserve happier life then ours. I do believe that our role as mothers (and fathers of course, but this text is about mothers) is that through support and dedication, we make sure that our children will achieve more and faster then we did. In my opinion the only measurement of family success is when you see every next generation to be better, go higher, have more then the generations before. That is my understanding of generational progress.

What we learn from mothers in our young age stays with us to the end of our lives. Our home is always a reference point to what and how to (or not) act as a parent. Our early childhood shapes our future. Childhood spend with mom is crucial to our society, our family, out tradition and our identity as a human being.

Some say it is not realistic, since we have what we have due to the feminist movement and equality women have fought for years to achieve. I say: you are right, but maybe it is time, after having experience, to adjust some things. I think that it is definitely doable if we would express interest. Mothers do not have to be overworked, running like crazy with thousand errands, without any time for themselves and for their children. We should do something about it before we will get to the point of no return.

I think Mothers are precious, their role in life is hard to overestimate, they are jewels in their children’s life and we should cherish them every single day, not only during one specific day.

I wish all Mothers loving children, who will have time to spend with mothers on her day. That the flowers you will receive, will never dry and the connection with our children never die.

Wishing all of you a very, very, Happy Mother’s Day!