Over the last few days I have delved myself into lectures and panel discussions about Quantum Physics and Quantum Mechanics. It is equally fascinating as it is difficult to understand and – even more – to comprehend the complexity of these topics.

Based on them I began to think about the difference between Newtonian and Einsteinian understanding of gravity theory in respects to the relationship between people. To an average person, complexity of physics is important to the point in which we employ it in our everyday life and it either complicates or simplifies our life. This way or the other, the understanding of basic concepts always helps us to avoid going on guilt trips or being trapped into a blame game.

So let’s look at the bases of Newtonian theory of gravity. After observations and mathematical calculations he drew the conclusion that there is a force, which attracts objects to the Earth (downward). He called it Gravity. That’s why the famous apple landed on his head. What is germane here is a direction of attraction: Earth enticed apple.

Einstein reevaluated Newton’s concept and drew a different conclusion. He proved that there is an outside force coming from the Universe, which actually pushes objects toward Earth. It is a kind of centripetal force, to oversimplify the problem. He described the same effect due to a completely different reason. The object is forced away from somewhere to be attracted to the Earth (in this example).

How does that apply to relationships between people? Well – most of us think that we are attracted to each other due to the nature’s magnetic force, which makes us think about physical attraction, chemistry, past lives experiences etc. depending on our reference point.

But what if it is quite the opposite? If we are attracted to something (or someone) in order to be pushed away from something (or consequently someone) else? Or avoid something non-beneficial, rather then to move toward something beneficial? It will not change the final effect that we will purchase a certain product or be with specific person. But the mechanics behind it is dramatically different. Doesn’t it inspire you to think about what I am pushed away from and why? Why am I pushed in this particular direction? What are the pro’s and con’s of both? Why am I “forced” to experience that specific reality? Therefore where is my Free Will and Choice part? And the final question remains – are we attracted or are we pushed away?

You may say that it is a philosophical, or an academic discussion, which does not change anything. I must agree. The final effect will remain the same, but understanding of ourselves and the universe changes… I think that if we want to be a part of the game, we better know the rules. Simply, because it will give us better chances to win. To win often means – to enjoy life more.

What do you think about it?